As an older sibling of a 13, 7, and 4 year old the article Preschoolers and Praise caught my eye. While Sebastian (13) and Julian (7) have already passed the preschool age, they still struggle with new skills and challenges. As for Delilah (4), she will start preschool in August, which is the age this article targets. As of right now, she spends her time playing on her own with her toys and bothering our mom for snacks (typical kid). Even though I don't spend that much time at home, when I visit I notice that she does say "I cant" or "I cant do it". For example, when she's drawing I'll ask her to draw me a heart or a star, she'll then tell me that she cant. So I'll draw it for her to show her or I'll put the crayon in her hand and help her draw out the shape. I like how the article focuses on the word yet. When a child says they "cant do it", its important to give them positive reinforcement like "you cant do it yet, but with more practice you can" It also talks about words like "good job" or "nice picture" don't have any meaning unless there is a point of focus. So instead of just good job, its "you did a good job sharing with your friend". I think this is a good way for children to realize that it is okay to fail and mess up a few times because eventually they can. I'll try this on my sister next time I visit home.
I also read the Why Do So Many Managers Avoid Giving Praise? In this article it talks about how some managers are reluctant to give negative feedback and/or positive feedback. A survey was conducted which asked "does you manager give you honesty feedback in a helpful way?" In which the most popular answer was that employees receive both positive and negative feedback from their managers. I think that it is important to have a balance between both types of feedback. If all you receive is positive feedback, it'll feel so much worse when you receive a negative type feedback from your manager. The same can go for the opposite. You may think the manager is trying to trick you when they give positive feedback, if all they give is negative feedback. Fortunately, at my job (I work at The Bookmark in the library), my managers are constantly giving us positive and negative feedback. When we get slammed with customers and the line doesn't die down until an hour later, our managers tell us we did great and they appreciate our hard work. Of course there has been times where we've received negative feedback as well, such as repeatedly not making drinks right or not ringing up the sushi correctly. With this perfect balance, the negative feedback can be given and is more effective while positive feedback reassures we are doing fine.
I also read the Why Do So Many Managers Avoid Giving Praise? In this article it talks about how some managers are reluctant to give negative feedback and/or positive feedback. A survey was conducted which asked "does you manager give you honesty feedback in a helpful way?" In which the most popular answer was that employees receive both positive and negative feedback from their managers. I think that it is important to have a balance between both types of feedback. If all you receive is positive feedback, it'll feel so much worse when you receive a negative type feedback from your manager. The same can go for the opposite. You may think the manager is trying to trick you when they give positive feedback, if all they give is negative feedback. Fortunately, at my job (I work at The Bookmark in the library), my managers are constantly giving us positive and negative feedback. When we get slammed with customers and the line doesn't die down until an hour later, our managers tell us we did great and they appreciate our hard work. Of course there has been times where we've received negative feedback as well, such as repeatedly not making drinks right or not ringing up the sushi correctly. With this perfect balance, the negative feedback can be given and is more effective while positive feedback reassures we are doing fine.
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